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I want to capture every special memory for her. I want to video her ballet recital. I want to take pictures of her activities and her everyday moments. I want us to be able to look back through the pictures, smile, and remember.
The problem is that when we’re watching from behind the camera, we’re not fully watching. We’re making sure that the lighting is right and the angle makes the shot look great. I’m tired of living out our moments behind the lens.
So we don’t any more.
We snap a few quick pictures or short videos on my phone. But most of the time, we sit and soak in the moments.
No, we don’t walk away without pictures and video. We’re blessed that my parents are super-involved with our family and come to all of Emma’s big events. My dad is an excellent photographer, and he snaps lots of pictures for us. We love having the gift of his pictures after each event. We also love that when Emma asks us if we saw when so-and-so did this-or-that, we can answer that we DID!
My brother and I also have a standing agreement. When one of our kids has a birthday party or big event where the whole family is there, we swap video and picture duty. I was behind the camera when his son dug into his first birthday cake, and he was behind the camera at Emma’s last birthday party. That way, we can each be fully involved in our kids’ big moments instead of being trapped behind the camera.
For the events where we don’t have anyone to video, we’ve started buying the DVDs that are professionally done (if they’re available). Emma’s dance studio offered a DVD of the recital, and we bought one. We did the same thing with the homeschool Christmas program last year. This isn’t the most frugal way to capture memories, but the time we can spend just watching and enjoying the performances is priceless.
While I love taking pictures, I want to be more intentional about being totally present at Emma’s events and soaking in all of the precious memories.
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Karen says
Great post!
We reached the same conclusion a few years ago. Sadly, we didn’t have anyone else taking pics or videotaping for us but the reality is that we don’t pull those old tapes out to watch anyhow-so we enjoy it in the moment and try not to regret later.
Jennifer says
As I was writing this post I realized that we haven’t watched either DVD that we bought! So I think you’re right. I don’t think we’ll ever regret being immersed in the moment.